Josh Muggleton was followed over his Year Dot, from conquering anti-depressants to surviving a life-changing move to uni...

Josh's Story

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Josh Muggleton

Quite a journey

08/12/2009

It has been an epic year for Josh... He’s dealt with bullying, coming off anti-depressants, living with Asperger’s and starting a new life for himself at uni. It has truly been his defining Year Dot... How does he feel at the end of it?


Josh's to do list

  1. Get into St Andrews University
  2. Achieve well in January and June Examinations – on track for 1st/2:1
  3. Make 5 Friends
  4. Look into relevant experience as psychologist
  5. Come off Prozac
  6. Pass Driving Theory and Practical Test
  7. Travel independently to and from St Andrews (if I get in)
  8. Do a talk in Scotland

Josh's big plan

Posted: 30/06/2008

I live in Guildford, Surrey, with my Mum, Dad, sister and 2 brothers. We are not what you would call a typical family. Both my brothers have Autism, and I have Aspergers Syndrome, a form of Autism. I was diagnosed when I was 15, and since then I have been giving talks to parents and professionals about living with Autism. I am about to finish my A Levels, and I hope to go to St Andrews University to study Psychology. I suppose I want to go firstly because, as much as I love my family, I feel like I need to break free, start to strike out on my own. I see this as my key transition into adulthood. Secondly because it's my dream to become a clinical psychologist as I have always wanted to help people and I think this is the best way for me to do it.

One of my goals over the next year is to make 5 friends at university. This may sound easy for most people but I am expecting it to be my hardest task. Give me a psychology text book and I will be happy for days, but ask me to go out during fresher's week and make some friends is going to be terrifying for me. I mean, how do you make friends??? Knowing me I will stand like a lemon watching people for an hour wondering what to do and then give up! If anyone has any ideas about how to survive fresher's week or how to make friends at uni please let me know!!!

Josh's journal

Final Update: 03/07/2009

A very final blog

I have been talked into re-starting my old blog that i had before yeardot. If you want to follow what i am up to, look at http://jmuggleton.blogspot.com/. I have also started using twitter http://twitter.com/JoshuaMuggleton. - Hope to see you soon. Josh

Read all of Josh's blogs here

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The National Autistic Society

PsychExchange

Citizenship Foundation

Institute for Citizenship

Your messages

Check out Josh's amazing comments:

Thanks for making this show Josh, it has been invaluable support for someone with Asperger's Syndrome to know I am not the only struggling to make social stuff work at university. All the best.

Emma (101 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshEva, Steven, Scott and Benjamin - thank you for your comments.

Eva - thankyou, i will do my best.

Steven - I am glad you feel inspired to keep going. Things will always get better if you keep pushing towards your goals and dont give up!

Scott - I think it is great how you feel, while the diagnosis of aspergers/autism can be very frightening or daunting, it does not meen we cannot achive - our goals may be differnat, or we may take differant routes, and there is nothing wrong with that. i wish you, your wife and your son the very best of luck

Benjamin - I am glad you feel driven to push yourself hard, it is a great feeling when you have pushed hard and acheved. Just be careful not to make the mistake i have made a few times and push yourself too hard and get "Burn Out", but you sound like someone who knows his limits. Best of luck - i am sure you will get to become a charterd accountant, as you sound really determined.

All the best

Josh

Josh (126 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh,

I am a 4th year pupil of Ayr Academy in Scotland,I saw your biography on Television and it really inspired me to achieve what i want to become which is a chartered accountant.

I thought that if you can put pressure on yourself like that and succeed in getting what you dreamed of then i thought so can i and i am now working hard to achieve my goals in life and i wish to thank-you for this and i wish you the best of luck in your up and coming year in your new University.

Yours Sincerely

Benjamin Rowe

Benjamin Rowe (127 days ago) Report Comment

Hello Josh I recorded your program and watched it last last night with my wife our 7 year old son has recently been diagnosed with ASD it was really good to see how you have not let aspergers hold you back and I hope that my son can go on to live his life to the full and make progress like you have done your story is inspirational and has given us hope for the future

scott (128 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh, a big hi and I wanna say that I can relate to Aspergers since I have it, too

Your journey is inspiring for me to carry on, since I'm finding it quite difficult with things going, at the moment

Steven (130 days ago) Report Comment

I love you, your such an inspirasion! Good Luck ! x

Eva (131 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshHello - and thankyou for your comments.

Patsy and Bryony, i wish you and your sons the best of luck. I know it is a hard world, but they are surviving. I am glad to hear Josh is holding down a job - i know it is often hard for aspies to find work. And i am sure that Jamie is acheaving his own goals - even if they are very differant to ones most people have.

Jean, Lesley, and danny, thankyou for your comments, i am glad you found the program intresting, and thankyou for your help and support, it meens a lot

All the best

Josh
Josh

Josh (132 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh
Just a quick posting to let you know how inspiring I am finding your story. Keep at it - not everyone needs to chuck booze down their necks.
All the best
Lesley

Lesley (132 days ago) Report Comment

Dear Josh
Like Patsy Kirkwood I am middle aged and I too found you inspirational! I believe that my mother, and possibly my late father too, has undiagnosed Aspergers Syndrome. It was only a few years ago that I finally figured out why I had difficulties relating to them and visa versa as I am NT. I admire your courage and integrity and your talks will do much to educate and enlighten more people. Best wishes, Jean.

JeanHands (133 days ago) Report Comment

Really enjoyed watching the programme this morning Josh, I'm so pleased and proud of you for the choices you have made in your life. I've a severley autistic son Jamie who's 16 and its wonderful to see you getting out there and doing all that I would have wished him to do but is unable to. Please keep with it, I can understand how difficult it can be for you, but you are getting it done and its great to see, keep the blogs up as you are an inspiration !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'll keep looking to see how you are doing, though I have no doubt you will get to what you are working towards.

Bryony (133 days ago) Report Comment

In aswer to your question how to get booked for more talks? Josh there must be so many ways. I'm working on it and will get back to you...Congrats on passing your driving test, any tips for me?

Dannybigsmile (133 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshWOW - i am totaly overwhelmed with the comments that you guys have sent me. I want to thank each one of you for your very kind comments and wishes.

Nicola, i am so glad my story has inspired you. I really wish you the very best of luck with your graphic design course and hope it brings you new opotunities.

Didi - thankyou for the work you do - it is so valuable. And thankyou for your comment

Paul - thankyou. I love public speaking, but for me, it is easier than talking to someone face to face. When i am talking to an audiance, i am talking at someone, where as when i am talking to someone face to face, i am talking to them. But slowly, i am begining to bring the confidence from public speaking into my day to day life. Thankyou for your support (and i have made a lot more than 5 friends)

Jenny - Thanks for getting in touch. Yes, they do all seem so young! i have had a lot of people asking me where differant buildings are and what they should bring to lectures. ah memories!

Jane: Yes, i can relate to the problems she is having, it does sound to me like it could be autism or aspergers syndrome. I would make an apointment with your GP and ask for a referal for a diagnosis. Diagnosis can open a lot of doors - support for yourself and your daughter, it helps the school to help her. If you or anyone else has any quiries about getting help, or about aspergers syndrome or autism, i would recomend calling (or e-mailing) the National Autistic Socieity Autism Helpline for more information.

I am sorry i havn't had time to respond indervidualy to every comment - it is the first week back at uni and as you can imagine things are rather hectic. however, i have read every comment posted and everyone brought a smile to my face (as well as a tear sometimes). I want to thank all of you again, your comments and support meen so much to me, and i wish you all the very best of luck.

Josh

Josh (133 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh,
I saw you on tv this morning and you were an inspiration. I have a 14yr old daughter who has always had problems at school with bullying and generally doesn't get on with her peers. She is very artistic and intelligent. She is also sometimes a little obsessive. Someone has suggested maybe mild autism or aspergers. i didn't catch all the program this morning so don't know how much yo talked about your aspergers. Can you relate to the problems my daughter is having? im really not sure what my next step is, i will probably take her to the doctor.
i would appreciate your comments.
Once again well done on your success.
Best regards Jane

Jane Parnell (133 days ago) Report Comment

Hey Josh, I was lucky enough to be off this morning and catch your story on Channel 4. Truly inspiring! I've been working as a TA in the local comprehensive for the last 8 years with boys with Asperger's. We have an SEN meeting this afternoon and I'm going to share your story with my colleagues and hopefully we can get some of the kids interested in following you on-line. Thank you for sharing, and keep up with all your hard work! You have made me smile today.

Kristin Donaldson (133 days ago) Report Comment

Dear Josh,
I've really loved watching year dot, not least because I left my job at St Andrews Uni Careers Centre in the Spring to have a baby and move up north and it made me homesick!!!..Great to see Phil again.I found my first few months at Durham tough, but it does get better with each year and I know everyone says it but time does just fly. I also used to work with a boy with Asperges and it's inspirational to see what you're doing with your life. Good luck with the new semester....don't new freshers always look so young?

Jenny (133 days ago) Report Comment

Hey Josh,
I just watched yeardot and just wanted to say you seem a really sweet guy and be happy with being the hard worker that you are. Not everyone is into the alcohol fulled weekends (me included) and there is nought wrong with that.
Stay cool Josh and all the best at St. Andrews

xx

Anita Hatch (133 days ago) Report Comment

Josh
I can't put into words just how much you've inspired me, this morning. After watching you on Year Dot, and seeing just how much you've achieved...you should be so proud. Have confidence and patience to make some true friends...I think anyone at St Andrews would be proud to have a friend like you. Your confidence shone through in your presentation...I wish I had the ability to captivate an audience the way you do. Work hard and play lots. You've an amazing future ahead of you. Have a great life.

Susan (133 days ago) Report Comment

Having just watched your story on TV, I feel you are a far more confident person that you give yourself credit for. Public speaking is one of the hardest things to do and you have a talent for it, that much is clear. Once you realize your strength of character making your 5 friends will be a breeze. Good luck with your future. I'm sure with your determination you can achieve anything you wish for. ;)
Paul.

Paul McCleary (133 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh, I have just seen your programme on television. My grandson has Aspergers and this has given me such hope for his future. He is excellent on his computer and can crack a game quicker than anyone I know. So thank you for telling your story, gives us all hope.

Joan (133 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh
I have worked with young people who have autism for the past five years helping them to make choices about their living environment, moving away from home. I have a small understanding of what it must be like for you to live away from home. I think you are an inspiration to other young people and hope that it will give them the courage to move forward as you have. I am sure your determination to succeed will propel you through the difficult times at Uni. Good luck and dont forget that there are many people out there sending you positive thoughts as your virtual support.

didi garnett (133 days ago) Report Comment

I watch year dot every morning! and i have to say your story brings a tear to my eye...
Not in a bad way but everything you have been through and you still carried on with your dreams, I was bullied in school and it knocked my confidence so much, I wish i had the ambition and Determination you have, You are true insperation and i admire you a hell of alot for what you did and what you do!!
Keep it up, if the world was full of people like you it would be a better place!!
Youu ahve inspired me to get off my ass and stop dwelling on the past and follow my dreams, Once my daughter is old enough im going to get a job and go back to college and do Graphic design!!

THANK YOU JOSH xxxx

Nicola (133 days ago) Report Comment

Josh you have blown us all away. Nobody should have anything other than utter admiration for the person that you are and what you are achieving! I think if anyone dared bully you they would have the wrath of the entire country and St. Andrews upon them. So don't worry about that, concentrate all your energies on the important stuff. Don't work yourself too hard. How's it going with the five friends? Take care, I'll write again soon, Dannybigsmile.

Dannybigsmile (133 days ago) Report Comment

Just heard your story on the telly. I live ten miles away from st.andrews and it has warmed my heart to see a young man with so much determanation. All the Best dude

Edd (133 days ago) Report Comment

Hi josh just watching your story and wanted to say u r an amazing young man and i think u have so much more to give with regards to educating people on autism etc WELL DONE and carry on with the good work and i hope u have reached your goal ov 5 friends at uni lol good luck hun x

Tammy-Dee (133 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh,
Just watching Year Dot and want to say congrats on everything you are acheiving. I don't have aspergers and don't think I know anyone who has, but your story is really inspiring and just goes to show that you can acheive whatever you want to if you put your mind to it. Keep it up and Good luck in the future. :)

Saskia (133 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh, what a remarkable young man you are! The tragedy in life is that we are often blind to what other people see in us. I hope in time you realise how strong, tenacious and courageous you are. I wish you all the best at St. Andrews. Louisa

Louisa (133 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshThanks Elizabeth!

Josh (139 days ago) Report Comment

Really excited to hear your story and all you have done.
I really admire you and hope you continue to do well in your degree and chosen path.

Elizabeth (141 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of joshHi Anna. Thanks for your comment, things are working out great at St Andrews! Thanks for your support!

Josh

josh (141 days ago) Report Comment

Hey Josh, I saw your story on Year Dot this morning and I felt compelled to come online and see how uni is working out! You really are quite an inspiration; your determination and courage despite everything you have had to overcome is incredibly touching. I feel motivated to take heed and follow your example! Well done on your A Level grades as well and I really hope everything is working out well for you at St Andrews, you deserve it! xxx

Anna (145 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshPhil, Paula, and Alison: Thanks for posting, it really meens a lot that people take time out of their day to say these things.

Paula, I am bowled over by your responce, thank you, you are too kind, but it is greatly apreciated. I wish you and your son the very best of luck, life in "the system" isnt easy, but it is do-able. Thankyou.

Alison: thankyou, and i really hope your son achives what he wants, and reaches his potential. I wish you all the best

Josh

Josh (145 days ago) Report Comment

hi josh, im watching your programme at the moment you have gave me hope my son is 11 was diagnosed when he was 5 goes to high school next year i am worried he doesnt seem bothered but to see what you have achieved has gave me hope for his future i will give him this webpage and he can read of your success himself.i wish you all the luck in the future.alisonxx

alison leslie (145 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshJason, Lucy and Claire: Thankyou all for getting in touch. Jason, i am really glad that a mate helped you to turn things around. Lucy, it is great to hear from someone who has done work with people on the spectrum, the work you do is so important, so thankyou! Claire, i am glad you enjoyed the program, and that it has given you renewed hope, Aspergers is not a disability, it is a diffability - a differance of ability, and with a little bit of the right support, we can achive a lot.

All of you, once again, thank you for getting in touch, and i wish you all the very best of luck.

Josh

Josh (145 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh
I was just watching the show by chance - I hadnt heared of it before. My son has asperger's, he is 10, and we are of course concerned for his future. Seeing your progress today has really heartened me and I will be reading up more about your experiences when I get the chance! I am so delighted for you and i hope the 1st year at St Andrews has been a success.Mostly I want to say thank you for being so open,and that you're an amazing young man and i wish you all the best. Claire x

Claire Stevens (145 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh, I saw Yeardot today for the first time and boy, was I knocked off my feet by you!! I cried...you have made my day. I have a 14 year old son and I felt as proud of you today as I do by what he is achieving. Tell your parents from me that they should be so proud (I'm sure they are anyway!) of you. I know, YES I KNOW, that everything will be great for you because you are so brave, so likeable and so special. If my son turns out to be half the man you are, then I'll be chuffed to bits. Enough already, your head may swell and you won't get out of the door of your digs. Thank you for making my day and I hope your life is as special as you are.

Paula x

Paula (145 days ago) Report Comment

HI Josh,

I have just watched the programme and was touched by how determined you Well done, Uni is a tough move for everyone and I found you to be an inspiration, . You are helping so many people with and without autism.

Hope you enjoyed your first year..Best of luck in everything you do

Love P x

Phil W (145 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh, I hope everything is going okay for you. Your story on Year Dot particularly interested me because I have done a lot of work with young people with Autism and Aspergers and it has become a big part of my life. I have so much respect for you and everything you are achieving. With passion like yours you will go far.

Love and respect,

Lucy (23)

Lucy Chesham (145 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh
i watched your program and thought it was very interesting. I have never had any problem like you, but i did get bullied a lot which affected me at college, but when i got my grades to get to uni i was happy, and uni mate changed my life a lot, you will make friends easier which is gd. well done on your grades and i know you will have a great time at uni, good luck Josh, you deserve it mate.
from Jason

Jason Presley (145 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshHi Monifa

Thanks for your comment. The book is about aspergers syndrome - some theory about it, as well as practical aproaches. I wish you the very best of luck in media or law (as a side note, a lot of produciton companies need lawyers - you could do that!), i am sure you will get to where you want to be.

Thankyou again, i really apreciate your comment

Josh

Josh (152 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh.
i watched the show twice and found it was quite intresting.
My little brother has autism too he got diganosed when he was 3.i hope you achieve your goals to go to uni and study psychology.i beleive if you keep in your mind what you want and dont give up you can do it.
i hear you have a book whats it about ?
you are an ispiration to anyone including me.i am 15 (nearly 16 woohh)and hope to pursue my dreams in media/law industry but havent decided yet between the two.

i think you will make friends at uni best thing to do is be yourself.

wish you luck :)

Monifa (154 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshHi Siobhan

Thanks sfor your comments, i am really glad you enjoyed the program. I will do my best to continue on this course and keep it up. Thankyou again for your support and kind words. Josh

Josh (214 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh
I want to say that I have really enjoyed watching you on year dot. I too have Asperger's Syndrome, I do hope you qualify to be a clinical Phycologist. As you could help a lot of people, with autism. You have made me and I expect others in the autistic community very proud! Keep up the good work, with all the talks you do. As I've found them very interesting on the year dot programme. Well Done Josh!

Siobhan Donnelly (217 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshHi Amanda

Yes, it is sad it is finishing, we had the final yeardot meetup a few weeks ago, and there were a some tears from both the yeardotters and the film crew.

Thankyou very much for your very kind words. I set out to try and make a differance, and to show just what you said - that Aspergers isnt a barrier, and that all we need, is a little bit of the right support - like everyone really. It meens so much when someone like yourself recognises this, thankyou!

As for the blog, i have been mulling it over for a while now. I think i will return to my old blog, but i will take a few weeks/a coupple of months off. I have 3 more chapters of my book to write, and then do all the editing for it, but after all the writing is done, and prehaps some of the editing, i will revive the old blog (or create a new one with a link from my old one). That will probably be some time in Augast, possibly september.

Thanks again, i hope to see you on my new blog!

Josh

Josh (229 days ago) Report Comment

I'm quite sad that it's finished - I loved to read what you were getting up to and watching your videos! But all is not lost, is it? Will you be going back to your old blog?

"Well done" just doesn't seem adequate, somehow; what you have done over the past year is so much more than that. In acknowledging what you have done, I also acknowledge what I have done, too. You show everyone that Asperger's is certainly NOT a barrier to anything you or I or anyone else with AS wants to do. It might take a little more effort (and perhaps sometimes a little more surprise when it does happen!), but hey, an achievement isn't really an achievement unless you have to try for it!

I will be following your "new" (old!) blog, if you choose to go back to it, and wish you the very best for the future. Onwards and upwards!

Amanda (229 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshHi Aimz

Sorry for the late reply - i have just come back from university so things have been a bit frazzled!

Thanks for your comments, it is always gratifying to hear people are following my story. I am glad you feel that bounderies can be broken - i firmly believe that aspergers syndrome can be a differance if ability, rather than a disability. Hmm, it sounds like a tricky situation with your friend. Personaly, i almost always tell people i have aspergers as i dont feel it is a big deal, and i am proud to have it, however it is really up to you, you know the situation far better than i do - go with your gut is what i say.

Good luck with your debate, and again, thankyou so much for your comment.

All the best

Josh

Josh (251 days ago) Report Comment

Well done Josh...you have done amazingly in the past year.
I am glad that you have shown that even though you have Aspergers (like myself)you are just like anyone else but alot better!
All that you have done so far has been incredible. You have inspired me and I shall continue trying my best to get the highers and degrees I need to become a primary school teacher!
I just ignore bullies, its not worth giving them the satasfaction so I walk away. perhaps I walk away from alot of things. Recently I lost my chance to make two really nice friends...I feel really bad because they tried there best to make me feel comftorble. I havent told anyone but one friend outside my family. I have met a boy with Aspies and he is proud to go out and tell everyone about it.In ways he has inspired me, I hint at him that I also have Aspies but he doesnt get it. I dont know wheather to tell him or not because of his compainer attitude..he is two years higher in school and is a good friend...but he is a bit to loud to stay with for to long...I sometimes leave the debating club we are members of with a sore head. we only see each other on that day... So Josh, what do you think I should do. my mum says if i want to and the friend that knows says no so its an equal divide.
well i shall talk again son, right now I need to research for our debating topic of why we should nit test on animals. (I would have prefared to be on the oppisition because Im better at argueing a point even If I dont believe in it)
As I said, you have done amazingly well and you have inspired me to try my hardest and ignore what people say. thank you for your great work. You will definetly go far in life and achieve all that you want to achieve. Good luck!
Aimz

Aimz (258 days ago) Report Comment

Thanks for your reply. I have made a note of your website and have registered to receive emails. Best of luck Sarahx

sarah (303 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshHi Naomi

I think you are right, luckerly my accademic mum was very good at easing me into life at uni. She knew i wouldnt get along well with the drinking culture and so helped me find other ways of meeting people - like ents! it took some time, becuase as you said, i thought it best not to rush it. Thanks for the comment, it is really apreciated. Josh.

Josh (313 days ago) Report Comment

Dear Josh, I love your to do list. It's really tangible, which is always a good thing for that kind of list, I think. Regarding your question about making friends at uni, I would suggest that your ability to just stand and take things in for a while before making friends might actually stand you in good stead. Most people get really drunk in the first week, make lots of 'friends' and then find themselves trying to avoid them for the rest of their time at uni. A bit of circumspection never hurt anyone. And taking your time may mean you make a real friend as opposed to just a drinking buddy. I mean, nothing wrong with drinking buddies but it sounds to me like that's not what you're after. I guess my advice, for what it's worth, is to take your own time about making friends, and don't try to compete in an arena that doesn't feel comfortable to you. Go for the nice people, not the cool people: it'll turn out that the nice people are genuinely cool. The cool people aren't always genuinely nice (too busy trying to be cool!) Have fun! Naomi.

Naomi (313 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshHi Rosa

I am so glad you see the diagnosis that way. it is really the best attitide and i wish you the best of luck. Thanks for your comment. Josh

Hi Claire

Yes, i have found the group work hard. But after a while i get used to it and as the course is good. Thanks - i hope i can get that first! Josh

Hi Sarah

i am so glad you found this and dont see it as being negitive. I wont deny it his going to be hard, but at the same time, it will be really rewarding and supprise you. I wish you the very best of luck, go to my website www.mugsy.org/josh, you can get my e-mail and feel free to contact me if you have any more questions. Josh

Josh (316 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh,

We have just been told that are 4 year old son has aspergers. When we first found out we were really sad and didn't know what his future would hold. I have been doing a lot of reading trying to understand aspergers and was really plased to come across your programme on channel 4 website. You have given me so much hope for my little boy and what he could achieve when his older. I was so touched by your programme and what you have achieved and your drive to do well.If my son can grow up to achieve as much as you, I would be so proud. Thank you so much for sharing your story with everyone and giving me more hope and understanding of AS.
Keep up the good work
Sarahx

sarah coxall (316 days ago) Report Comment

Hi,
I am taking degree level third year modules in psychology at the moment and also have aspergers. I have found the most difficult parts were the group work in 1st and 2nd year as it is so discriminating against minority groups like aspergers.
Am enjoying this year much more as no terrible groups !!!

Am on for a 1st / 2:1 - if I can do it, you can too !!!

Claire (319 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh I know what you mean about the "I'm so sorry" attitude. My son was finally diagnosed with AS on Monday after 7 years of my knowing he was different. I see it the same as you it is a challenge. There is nothing he can't do it's just that me may do it a little differently. Reading your page is an inspiration. Good luck with everything, hope you get the grades you want this year.

Rosa (320 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshHello Lyndsay. Thank you for your comments. I am so glad you are reading around. The important thing to remember is to see Aspergers as a challenge - it has its difficulties, but also its rewards. So often people get the diagnosis in the form of "your child has aspergers syndrome, i am so sorry". they shouldnt say it like that. yea, it may be hard, but also rewarding.

Peter. You are right, anyone and everyone are potential friends. Personaly, i prefer having a small friend pool, so i may only have a few friends, but they will be really close friends, and you may think it is boring, but i find it really rewarding. but i see your point

Thank you both for writing

Josh

Josh (320 days ago) Report Comment

Good luck Josh,
I was diagnosed with AS two years ago at the age of 51! This was after my son aged seven was diagnosed.
AS can give you an edge. As for friends, I have no problem. Everyone is my friend. People I meetin the street or wherever can be my friends if it's only for a minute or an hour or for months.

How boring to have just a few friends? What do you learn from such a small "friend pool".

Peter Davies (320 days ago) Report Comment

hello josh,
I find it a real insperation to read about what your doing. I have a son also called josh whos 4 who is currently being assesed for aspergers. I am curenntly doing as much research as i can to see what i can do to help him. It really helps to read upon how you deal with life to see if there is anything i can help my son with. Sorry about the spelling i know its bad lol.
Keep up with the good work.
Lyndsay

Lyndsay (320 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshHi Martin and Amanda. Sorry it has taken me so long to respond but i have been in london (without internet acsess) for the past few days.

Martin - I am so glad you are going to try and get away from home. I know it wont be easy for you, but i think it is so worth while and i think after a while, you will start to enjoy your time with friends - not all are social/alcohol fiends! Best of Luck.

Amanda - Ouch, i can imagine how nasty having noisy neighbours could be - walls are always paper thin! Your comments about forums are very vaild, i know several forums where people go more to vent when there AS gets ontop of them. I will have bad days, like everyone, and for me that will involve being annoied at not being able to understand peoples facial expressions. But on the whole, i think AS can be a positive thing, it is about attitude, you can eather rule AS or AS can rule you. Thanks for your comments about my grades - they are much apreciated.

Josh

Josh (324 days ago) Report Comment

Hi again Josh
One of the biggest problems I'm having this year is noisy-ness of people on my corridor! Last year it wasn't so bad but this year I've been woken up many times, and throughout the day people play their music really loudly! I'm glad you'll be in a smaller annexe in a small hall; from your beginning of term videos it looks like where you are now there are a LOT of people.
Well done in your exams too; the grades you got are pretty amazing! And to think that most people don't seem to make that much effort in first year...
I've been thinking about you, and I've been thinking about forums. I've been on a few autism/AS forums, and most of the people there seem to describe their inability to understand body language/facial expressions, how much their sensory issues impact on their lives, how difficult it is to fit into mainstream education, how little support they get, how their obsessions take over their lives... I'm not saying they don't have the right to "complain" (I don't really see it as complaining), but you don't seem to do that - you seem really quite "normal". I think that's why it's good that you have all of these videos and blog entries. It shows people that we're not all really weird beings from a different planet... we're just a little bit different, if that makes sense?

Amanda (327 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh,

I have been following your story since the beginning of the year, and can I say you have inspired me to rethink my approach to university. Like you I find socialising very difficult almost to the point of frightening,although I have knot been diagnosed with AS, I fear I might suffer from it. I did move away to study History at the University of York, but after less than a week I came back home to Plymouth after I found making friends virtually impossible. It was difficult to let my guard down after being bullied by people my own age for the best part of 12 years, and with the intense social/alcohol frenzy of Fresher's, I found that nobody could understand that I was finding things extremely difficult by just being away from my comfort zone let alone socializing with complete strangers! Since transferring to Plymouth University, I have remained almost a social recluse, thinking that I must be the only person in a uni who actually cannot make friends. Thankfully I have seen your story which has motivated me to get my BA (hons) and apply to a university away from home so I can, as you put it 'strike out on my own' and become an independent adult. I look forward to watching your story as it unfolds,

Kind Regards,

Martin

Martin (327 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshHi Amanda

Thanks for your comment. It was really intresting to read about your experiance with aspergers and university, and i am really pleased to hear you are doing well. Yes, i did have people telling me i should just have more fun, that first year is about having fun and not about work, but even when they say that, i am infact having fun. I enjoy my course (even if it does prove to be a headake sometimes!) and i really enjoy ents. I totaly agree about the not partying/getting drunk thing, when i work the bop (doing lights for the twice a week disco/cheesymusicfest), everyone gets really drunk, and dances to loud music - i honestly couldn't stand to do that. I sometimes venture off stage to see what the lights look like, but could never dance along/drink with them. In fact, the most alcohol i have ever had is 2 units in a MONTH. but hey, it is what i enjoy, so i am doing to do. Anyway, i will stop there. Thanks again for getting in touch. Josh

Josh (334 days ago) Report Comment

I had to stop because I typed too many characters ;)

You said in one of your videos that you like the Ents crew because itâs socialising, but with boundaries, if I remember correctly. I know what you mean about that; Iâm a member of a musical theatre group, who meet at a certain time every week and do a certain activity, and it ends at a specific time. Itâs doing something with people, but itâs not unstructured.
I could go on for longer, but Iâll stop there. You seem like a really lovely person. I would be friends with you if you were here!
Amanda xx

Amanda (337 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh.
I found this page a few weeks ago. I'm 19 (nearly 20! Wow, that makes me feel old!) and in my second year at Manchester university, still living in catered halls. I was diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome around a month ago. I havenât yet personally met anyone else (at least, not knowingly) who has it. But I came across you and your videos and wow, I'm nodding along with so much of what you say!
I have few friends. I actually made quite a lot last year in halls; it seemed to me like I didn't have to make that much effort because first-years seemed to have an innate tendency to stick together! My hall is a lot smaller than yours, too, with less than 100 people. This academic year, all the friends I had moved out, and I'm now left with very few. I'm finding that friendships are quite hard to keep. The ones I do have are ones worth keeping, though :)
I spent a lot of my time doing university work at the beginning of the year. I didnât think so at the time, but I now think it might have been to stop myself thinking about the social side of things, and how I wasnât doing very well.
I think you are amazing to talk in front of all of those people. You said in a previous comment that it doesnât make you nervous. I know Iâm not able to talk in front of people for more than a minute without breaking out into a cold sweat!
Do you ever get people that donât know about your Aspergerâs telling you to âjust get out there and have some funâ? Iâve never been to a bar or club in Manchester (or anywhere else, for that matter!) and I have never been even close to being drunk, but people on my course keep telling me itâs such a fun thing to do. I know that I wouldnât like the masses of people, or the loud music, or other people getting drunk, the staying up late, the lack of time-frame... I donât know why it has to be such a central part of student culture and seemingly, identity...

Amanda (337 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshHi Aimz

I know what you meen about missing a day at a club. I missed an Ents meeting a few months ago, and although nobody thought it was a big deal - i couldnt get to sleep that night - i couldnt stand the thought that i hadn't gone, so i know how you feel. Thankyou, and i wish you the best of luck

Josh

Josh (337 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh, Im Julies daughter and as she said I have also been following the videos you have done! Well done on getting into St.Andrews! Your doing a great job and I think your doing great so far. I also cant go up and make friends easily, I cant even go up and talk to my own friends and talk, they come to me. I also feel dreadful for missing a day at any club I would hate to miss even two minutes of the debating club at my school!
Good luck for the future and congrats for what you have done so far!
All I can do is repeat what has been said and that you seem very nice and like a good guy!
Take care and have fun at uni,I think you do exceedingly well in uni!!!!
Aimz

aimz (339 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshHi Anya. I know what you meen, we can often be very good at hiding our aspergers from others - we, like everyone, like being normal, and it is only when stressed that our aspergers shows itself. Thanks, i really enjoy doing yeardot. Thanks for commenting. Josh

Josh (339 days ago) Report Comment

Hey I saw you well on TV you have Aspergers. I'm 13 and my big brother does but I know Aspergers is part of 'Autism' and all but really I don't see how he's any different to someone with out Aspergers as he is normal except he is like really good at science and acting. Well I think it is cool how you do year dot.

Anya (340 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshJulie - ..... wow, i am so touched by your story, and how much what i have done meens to you. All i can say is thankyou so much for watching and getting in touch. I love to hear other Aspergers sucsess stories, sometimes it seems all doom and gloom, but it really isnt. I really do wish you and your daughter the very best of luck

Sophie - LOL - going out every night and getting wrecked isnt quite my cup of tea - but setting up and running the events people get wrecked in is very fun! I am really glad you found the program intresting. Uni is going well, the usual pressure of impending exams and coursework, but i guess you get used to it!

Rosie - Of course i remember - Manny gave me such trobble, i think you were one of the few who could have any control over him! If you add me on myspace/facebook, i would love to catch up and hear what has happened to the yard since i have been gone!

Matt - Thankyou, although giving the talks for me really isnt stressful - its just like talking to someone, plus it is such a rewarding thing to do.

Julie, Rosie, Sophie, Matt - Thanks again for getting in touch. Josh

Josh (341 days ago) Report Comment

Hey Josh,
Just watched your episode on channel 4. Firstly wanted to say big well done on getting into St.Andrews Uni! Looks like you've settled in well :)
Seriously, looks like you've achieved so much in your life its really inspirational. Giving those talks like in Belfast in front of so many people, god woulodn't want to be in your shoes!
Well done keep it up mate :)
Matt

Matt Pyle (341 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh, you may not remember me but i was at Wyvenhoe many years ago with you. I rode the naughty little black pony Manny.
Wish you the best of luck in the future :)

Rosie (342 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh
I've just watched your YearDot episode from Monday 2nd March and I just want to say how insightful I found your program.
It was really interesting to hear about social situations from the point of view of a person with Asperger's.
I also think it's great that you're raising awareness and helping other people to understand more about it.
I hope your university courses are going ok and that you're not going out every night getting totally wrecked!!
Take care and I wish you all the luck for the future.
Sophie x

Sophie (342 days ago) Report Comment

Hi there Josh, I wanted to write to tell you you have 2 new Scottish fans here! Your videos are inspirational. My daughter is 13 and has AS. She was diagnosed age 5, but only recently was told about her DX. School has been a struggle, and she is now in High School and really beginning to blossom academically. Something I never envisaged in those early years. She would love to go to uni like you, and hopes to become a teacher. Like I say, you have come a long way and achieved so much already. You are clearly a very capable, motivated and intelligent fellow, and I'm sure with your hard work and determination, St Andrews will prove to be a wonderful springboard for you. Your videos have made me smile with you, and even shed a few tears. Tears of pride for all you achieved in such a short time. I hope my daughter, who has been following the videos with me, can follow her dreams just as you are doing. You are indeed an inspiration. We will watch this space for your latest antics!
Take care Josh,
Julie

Julie (342 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshJayde - i dont know what to say, that is such a hard situation, and i dont know now you can deal with it, i really do admire you for that. I really hope you find somewhere.

John - thankyou, I do try to see all the bad stuff as a motevator, rather than a depressor - i usualy sucseeed, but sometimes it gets the better of me for a bit. LOL - believe me, i am not that bright - i seem to have to spend all my free time with my nose in a book!

Sean - Thanks for getting in touch - its always great to hear from another speaker. i am glad you enjoyed the program

Josh

Josh (343 days ago) Report Comment

Hey my names Jayde. Am 18 years old. 2008 was my year dot as it was the first time i became homeless. It was hard at first and a bit scary as i was on my own with nowhere to go. I got put in a youth hostel and met some good friends who i still keep in contacted with. It was easier because we were all going through the same thing together. After 4 months in my first hostel i got transfered to another hostel that could help me with my needs because i am deaf. After less than a month at that hostel i left because my room kept getting broken into and my stuff was going missing. I went back to the homeless unit and they said they couldn't put me anywhere else because i left the previous hostel. That was in December. Its March now and i still haven't found anywhere else to stay. I dont no why am telling you this lol but i think its good that your making people more aware about your disibility. I hope you pass all your exams and have a good future ahead of you. Jayde x

Jayde (343 days ago) Report Comment

josh don't let the past years and exprience hold you back, whatever you had dealt with through secondary school should have only made you stronger . you are far from an average man and will one day be a great GP or a famous phycologist. you will have no problems making friends believe me, i envy you for your intelligance as you can probaly tell by my spelling im not da sharpest tool inda shed.lol. take care m8 and keep doind what you do best.x

john (343 days ago) Report Comment

hi Josh i saw your programe yesterday i really tapped into some of the things you were saying i have aspergers syndrome myself and i'am english but i live in ireland and i do talks myself i picked up a few things from watching you talk fair play to you aspergers needs a voice i know how you are feeling about exams i went through the same thing myself

Sean (343 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshPhilippa - Thanks for your comment, I am glad you enjoyed the program. i know how hard it must be for you and your son, but as i hope you will agree this program shows - aspergers is a diffability (differance of ability, not a disability (thanks to Wendy Lawson for that phrase!). Unfortunatly Yeardot wont be on next week, but you can always see what i am doing by this website.

Michaela - thanks for your responce to the post question. I am glad you can see how important this is to me, and why i need good grades - and thanks for thinking i have nothing to worry about - i hope you are right!

Maura - thankyou, it is really nice to get such good feedback

Julia - wow - you ARE comming at this from all angles! I hope your daughter is finding st andrews as enjoyable (and challenging) as i am. Lol - my organisation is very poor - i would be lost without my PDA i really would. Thanks again.

To everyone who has commented. I just want to say a big thankyou. I am honestly overwhelmed by the level of responce i have got. I think i have responded to everyones comment, but if i have missed you out, i am really sorry. I really love getting this feedback, and the knowleage that people are out there following my story is such a heartwarming feeling. Thankyou all so much

Deepest thanks

Josh

Josh (344 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshHi Adam, I usualy like the label Aspergers, for me it is not something to be ashamed or afraid of, and so i will always wear that lable with pride. It also helps people to know why i am differant and how to help me. I think music is a very helpful to people with aspergers, i find it very relaxing and a great distraction. I think it is great you are doing your thesis on music and Autistic spectrum disorders - i think it is a really under reserched area - good luck!

Hi Kerry - Thankyou so much for getting in touch, what you said was really kind. I wish you and your brothers the best of luck, it is a hard road, no doubt, but it is travelable. Thankyou again.

Jacky - Thank you, that is a huge complement. however it isnt all down to me. My parents and friends have helped me hugely. Move over, Aspergers syndrome may have some limitations, but it also allows me to do excell in others - for example it helps with my public speaking, it gives me my drive and passion for psychology - while it imposes unusual limits on me, it also helps me break others, for which i will always be greatful. Thanks again for your comment, it was really touching.

Hannah - thankyou, one of the key reasons i am doing this project is to try and help people, and if you have learned something form it, then it makes it all worth while. thanks again, and i wish you and your boyfriend all the best.

Sophie - it is cheesy but i will let you off! lol! As for finding someone, i dont have much luck in love, but thankyou, and i hope you are right.

Rachel - thanks for your advice, getting off prozac was one of the hardest things i have had to do, and i am really glad i didnt use another drug to help. However now that i am off it i am really glad i came off it - i know now that what i acheve is due to me, and not some chemical whorling around in by brain. Thanks again for your comment, it is really apreciated.

Josh (344 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshHi Robert - i am sorry to hear things arnt going well for you. Keep at it though, i know speaking to people is hard, but the more you persist, the easier it becomes.

Hi Luke - Things are going well, lots of work at the moment, but its what i signed up for, and i do enjoy it (well, most of it!). The highlight of my week is probably my work with ents, and so that keeps me going at the grind stone thought the week.

Hi Gary - I think you are right, and i have met a lot of the right people at st andrews - especialy though the ents crew.

Josh (344 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh,

I'm also a late diagnosed Aspergers person. I'm nearly 16 and wasn't diagnosed until I was 9 or 10.

I used to get bullied at school and I still do. It's only really boys that feel a need to bother me and I find it really hard to make friends. I'm lucky to have the LSU [Learning Support Unit] to go in for break and lunxh times. I'd be lost without it.

I think your amazing. I don't think I'll be going to university. I think I'll just study chhild care at college and then get a job.

Miriam (344 days ago) Report Comment

Hello Josh, You are a very inspirational fellow and should be proud of yourself. I have an autistic brother and my daughter just started at St Andrews (New Hall) in September last year - so your story interests me from ALL angles! Just keep on being as organised as you are, and you will find things will fall into place for you, I'm sure of that. Routine is the answer! Take care and good luck to you.

Julia (344 days ago) Report Comment

Loved your programme. Really inspiring. Well done. Keep up the good work..

maura (344 days ago) Report Comment

i don't think so,it is something that is important to him and he wants to do well so its only natural that he is worrying..but i personal think he has nothing to worry about as he seems very bright and very determent.keep it up

michaela robbins (344 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh
Met your Dad at a conference last week and he suggested I watch the programme! I did and it was really encouraging for me to see how well you are doing. My 7 year old son has Aspergers and he struggles with so many aspects of life at school. Seeing you at University is inspiring even thpugh I know it must be a real challenge for you. thanks for taking part in year dot and being willing to talk about your experiences with Aspergers. Good luck and keep on going - I'll be watching again next week.

Philippa (344 days ago) Report Comment

Hello, I just watched your yeardot program on channel 4, and though I dont have much in common with you, I have been on prozac and got off it, My advice is, please dont except any other drug to help you get off it, Just use your willpower, tell yourself that your a brilliant person, from what iv seen you are, and that you dont need anything to alter yourself. I give you my best wishes and hope you acheive from life everything you hope for.

Rachel (344 days ago) Report Comment

Hi josh, i was watching channel 4 and i saw you...you actully took my breath away without sounding cheesey....!!!
all i could think about when i was watching the tv program, ur gunna find sum1 who loves u sooooo much n i can garentee ull treat em rele nice!!! contact me yerrr?
Sophie xx

Sophie Lawrence (344 days ago) Report Comment

Hey Josh.
Im watching you this very minute on year dot.
My boyfriend is 18 and suffers with aspergus and just reading your blogs and watching you today has taught me things about him that I didnt know. So you have taught me some vital information...And for that I am grateful. You are doing things I dont even have the courage for and I dont suffer with Autism.

Well done. Keep your head up. And party as hard as you work...you deserve it.

xPeacex

Hannah (344 days ago) Report Comment

Thank you Josh. I have been following your progress via the TV programme. You have done so well. To be where you are now, to live regardless of the limitations your condition forces upon you is not only admirable, it's heroic.

Jacky Cook (344 days ago) Report Comment

Ok I just turned on the telly and saw you and seeing this has seriously touched me. My brothers are autistic, the eldest one is actually your age and Aspergers and facing a lot of the same kind of challenges. It really touched me watching it, just knowing how much of a challenge it can be to overcome things and I just wanna say keep your chin up! It really did touch me and I hope that you succeed like you deserve to :)

Kerry Watt (344 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh

bee watching you today . Wanted to say hello

I am currently a PhD candidate looking at how music can help people within the autisitc spectrum in terms of cognition, communication etc

I am interested to see what you think about labelling in terms of what is Apsegers ? Is it sometimes a conveniant label? Can music help people with Apsoergers. Can it affect facial expression, bdy language etc. If so , how?

I would love to hear yout thoughts on my thesis and any ideas you may have.

HA ha just heard you say on TV....."in the past people seem nice and often they are not- just thought hope that won't be me!!!

Also I read Psychology at the University of Manchester and may have deas you could be interested in?

My MSc was also in Manchester looking at the effects of music on cognition for people with profound and complex learning disabilities

So thats all good luck and hope to hear from you -

Adam Reece (344 days ago) Report Comment

Keep it up mate you will make friends when the right ones come along and you will know that so good luck

Gary Hanson (344 days ago) Report Comment

hew is it goint at st andrews

luke (344 days ago) Report Comment

hey soz about the spelling misttakes

luke (344 days ago) Report Comment

I hope things are going alright for you because i cant speak to people but i have not been diagnosed will anything all they say is it is anxiati.

ROBERT STACEY (346 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshHey Luke, thanks, will do!

Josh (349 days ago) Report Comment

hay josh just keep your head in the book and do youe best that is you can do

luke (350 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshHi Catherine, Yes thanks, i am enjoying Uni, although the workload never seems to let up! Although my exam results were good, for me it just meens i have to aim to get higher next time to beat them- and that wont be easy! Thanks for commenting. Josh

Josh (356 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh, I saw you on Yeardot last week and I just wanted to say that I hope you're enjoying being at uni. I was really pleased to come on here today and see that your exams went so well. Enjoy celebrating your success!

Catherine (356 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshHi Kimberly, i think you are right, staying positive is what is needed, i think for a lot of my exams, half the marks are down to confidence and thinking positivly - it seemed to work this semester! Thankyou

Josh

Josh (361 days ago) Report Comment

Hey, Josh i have been following your journey, i think you need to remain positive with your exams. Stay calm and smile. You are a remarkable person keep up the work! x

Kimberly (361 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshChloe, That was a lovely comment, thankyou so much
Gillian, thankyou, but please remember, there is always hope, it is something you can smother, you can squese, you can crush, but you can never kill it - it is what has kept me going all these year. Thanks again
Shazzer, thanks, i am still getting on well, infact my last set of exam results were rather suprising!

Again, Thankyou all

Josh

Josh (361 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshScot, Thankyou, it must have been so hard joining the Navy, it is something i could never cope with, and i take my hat off to you for doing it. I wish you the best of luck. Thankyou for getting in touch, i love to hear from others who are going though the same sort of things
Hi Dominique, i am about to post a blog with my latest exam results, (its good news), i hope you enjoyed the progam!
Hi Emma, Thankyou so much for posting - i am glad you are pleased i am talking about it, i know some people can get very scared when i talk about aspergers syndrome, and so it meens a lot that you are pleased i am talking about it
Hi Katy, Again, thankyou for your comment, even though i have now settled in, it is still good to know that i wasnt the only one panicing about uni and having trobble settling in. Thanks again

Josh (361 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshHi Steph, Thank you, although comming off meds only took a small bit of time in the program, for me it seemed to drag on for ages, and was probably the hardest thing i have had to do. I really apreciate your support
Lisa, WOW! i think that is some of the highest prase i have ever gotten - you are too generous! Thankyou, i think my friends and family (accadamic and biological) are proud. I will post a blog with my first uni results - just promice me you dont start shouting at the screen as you start scrolling down the page! LOL! Seriosly, thankyou, thankyou wall for your messages, I love reading them, and they never fail to make me smile.
I have asked the people in the YearDot office to let me see the back dated messages, and so ...

Josh (361 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshHya all

Alan, thanks for posting the other half, it is great to hear the story to where you found the 'doggeral', and thanks again or it - i love it!
Hi Kristi, It turns you you were right about my exams - i definatly was worrying too much, I just got my last exam result (i will post a blog soon and you can see what i got!). As for social life, it is currently 2 AM and i have just got back from lighting an amazing bop, and i am going back 2mo (no lectures until 11 Am so i am still awake for them - Brillient!). Ents has proved to be my social salvation, as infact have the Yeardotters - it has been great meeting up with them, it is always a highlight for me. I Hope this semester i will get to do some more ents - i find it oddly relaxing, and that i think will also help with my exams - in a kinda round about way!

Josh (361 days ago) Report Comment

Josh, I read your reply and thought I would 're-post' the first part of my comment for your benefit, then you can see the tie-in to the second part of the comment that you did 'get'. Once again 'All the Best'. So here goes:
Josh,
The every best of luck to you Josh, with your determination & resolve showing
through on the TV just now I am sure you will do well. May I be so bold as to suggest that you 'read' what I shall call a doggerel - for want of a better word, some folk call it a poem!
My GrandParents wrote it down for me the day that I 'left' home to go to a boarding school in the '50s.
It can be found on the following webpage and is {en}titled "It Couldn't Be Done" by Edgar Albert Guest.
Personally I think you HAVE done it. Good luck to you now and for whatever the future DOES hold for you.
Alan

Alan (362 days ago) Report Comment

Josh, I think you are definatly worrying about your exams too much! When I was at Uni (I left because I had oppurtunity to go to Australia for a month) I enjoyed the social aspect soo much. Its so much fun. When I saw you on TV, I hink I worried that you would rely on this and your other social networking sites to suppress your need for social activity. When I read your blogs, I am pleased you are getting on well in your exams but we all know you are an intelligent and deermined individual! I want to see you talking about the fun evenings you have out and the silly antics you get up to! Universities not jst for working, its a life experience, just don't forget to live it!
Kirsti x

Kirsti (362 days ago) Report Comment

hi josh was watching your YearDOT the other day and I am so glad you beat the medicine and you got into St Andrews

steph (362 days ago) Report Comment

hi josh.
saw you on tv today. think you are an inspiration to us all. your friends and family must be so so proud of you. i dont know you but i was so proud of you that i was crying watching the programme and shouting will done to the tv when you got your exam results.lol. anyway just wanted to say well done for not giving up and well done for getting what you want. you obsviously worked hard enof for it. enjoy your time at uni while you can, its meant to be fun as well as hard work. good luck for autism bill. good luck for everything in the future you really deserve it. and you can do it!!!
from joshs number 1 fan lisa

lisa (362 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of Joshback to it from time to time.
To all others who posted but whos message fell off the end, Thankyou so much for posting, if you want to post it again i would love to read it.

Thankyou all again for your posts, this has been an amazing day for me.

Josh

Josh (363 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshKris, Thank you - You arn't the only one glad i got in i can tell you! i honestly couldnt believe it - i was in a daze for several days after. In fact i only just made it - For business i needed a B grade (420 points out of 600) and I go 426!
Hi Rob, Thanks, looking back it seems like another world, another reality from this one, but it was a reality that was so hard to escape from. I hope you didn't find the Diagnosis hard to deal with - i know some people can find it a bit of a shock. Hearing my name pop up all the time?! LOL oh dear what have people been saying!?! LOL
Alan, Unfortunatly i only got your correction message, but i went to the web address and it was so touching. I have always felt like i have been up against the odds, it just reminds me how hard i have had to battle, and how far i have come. I am always looking forward to see what the next problem is, yet i rarely look back to see how far i have come. I have saved the link in my faverotes and i think i will be comming

Josh (363 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshHi Francesca, Laura, Ellie, Kris, Robert, Alan and anyone else who posted. I am totaly overwhelmed by your responces. I wish i could have read them all but there have been so many the posts some have been bumped off the end!
Francesca, it is so gratafying to hear that, it brought a smile to my face after a rather long day.
Laura, I love to hear that other people have gone though the same problems, whether they have Aspergers syndrome or not, many of our problems are ones we all face, and your comment shows that.
Ellie, it sounds like i could use some of your training! You are obveously right on the money as i have found since i have joined Ents and become part of the team, i have naturaly been walking with my shoulders high, smiling more, and keeping my head up. I think a lot of people with Aspergers syndrome could benifit from what you have to say - do you do much lecturing to people with aspergers syndrome?

Josh (363 days ago) Report Comment

hey Josh , i think you are amazing, i watched this show about you today on t.v and it was so nice to hear your still doing good !!!

francesca (363 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh,
I saw you move into Uni today on TV and I am was very moved by what you said and did. When I had my freshers week at the university of Chester last year I was very worried before hand what was going to happen. I wish you all the best.

Laura (363 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh, saw you going to uni on TV today and I'm sure you've made friends by now as you come across as a lovely guy. As part of my job I train people in confidence-building techniques and I just wanted to say don't worry,when you're in a new social situation, always remember everyone feels like a spare part, it isn't just you! Some people may look at ease and confident but we're all different and I can guarantee you aren't alone in feeling daunted. Just walk in with your head held high, get those shoulders back because your height is an assset, don't try to hide it, smile, look at people's mouth when they're talking if eye contact is too much, and always have some ice-breakers at hand - my favourite, after asking the usual where are you from etc, is to mention a book you read, band you heard or programme you watched and ask if they caught it and what they thought. But above all, be yourself Josh, as you seem a very nice person to be with lots to offer potential friends. Good luck!

Ellie (363 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh I was whatching your TV Story today I'm Gald that you got into St. Andrew's Good Luck

Regards
Kris ...

Kristopher Wilson (363 days ago) Report Comment

Hey Josh! its Rob from school. Just saw you on the tele. i think its amazing how much you have acheived since school, alot more than most the idiots there that gave you a hard time undoughtably. I was diagnosed aspergers just after leaving school so i find it really encouraging to see you doing so much with your life and hearing your name pop up all the time.

Robert Keech (363 days ago) Report Comment

Josh, For your ease I should have entered the web address 'from/for' my last message {Re. 'It Couldn't Be Done'}.
It is:
http://rpo.library.utoronto.ca/poem/901.html
This address shows the version that I was told, sorry I left it 'out' earlier.
Alan
P.S. I blame 'Ageism'!!

Alan (363 days ago) Report Comment

The every best of luck to you Josh, with you determination & resolve showing through on the TV just now I am sure you will do well.
May I be so bold as to suggest that you 'read' what I shall call a doggerel - for want of a better word, some folk call it a poem!
My GrandParents wrote it down for me the day I 'left' home to go to a boarding school in the '50s. {& I a have 'used/referred to' it more than once throughout my life!}
It can be found on the following webpage and is {en}titled "It Couldn't Be Done" by Edgar Albert Guest.
Personally I think you HAVE done it. Good luck to you now and for whatever the future DOES hold for you.
Alan

Alan (363 days ago) Report Comment

justed watched u on channel 4, your such a sweetie! i hope u are still gettin on well at uni, i was so happy when u got the good marks!

shazzer (363 days ago) Report Comment

you are doing so well just belive in yourself i have a 15 year old son with the same illness and you have gave me hope that he will some day follow in your foot steps the only advice i can offer is rember every exam trust in your self and rember you are doing so well be proud of yourself and i will be logging in each day to see how you are feeling take care and good luck

gillian young (363 days ago) Report Comment

hi josh, i just watched you on channel 4 and you were so sweet! you have nothing to worry about xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Chloe Montague (363 days ago) Report Comment

Josh! I just watched yeardot and couldnt help myself leaving a comment. I honestly think you've done fantastically to settle into Uni so quickly! I had some serious issues settling in myself as i found the whole thing very daunting, and i was only 30 mins from my home! It took me the WHOLE of the first term until i started to feel comfortable! Am looking forward to following your story! Good luck in your exam results!

katy (363 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh! i was just watching the program on channel four & i really wanted to write to you. My brother has Aspergers aswell. He was diagnosed when he was 17 and he is now nearly 21. I think you are a real insparation. Not many people know about Aspergers, so it's nice to see someone talk about it. I hope your exams are going well :) hope to hear from you soon x

Emma (363 days ago) Report Comment

Hi, I was jus wanting to know how your exams went? What were the results?
I'm watching the program on TV and right now you're just moving into St Andrews. :)

Dominique (363 days ago) Report Comment

hi m8 my name is scot i have only just started to watch year dot but i feal for u m8 i no how hard it is to make friends and to trust people coz i have had that proplem as well but i am joinin the navy to do something new and overcome my fears i hope everythink goes well for u and if u put your mind to it u can do anythink i hope u atchive everythink you want good luck my friend

scot lee burnaap (363 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshHi Samantha

I am glad you enjoied the talk - i always worry whether people enjoy them. Thankyou also for your comment, i should get my exam results in about a week so so fingers crossed!

Josh

Josh (376 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh
I was at the course that you spoke at yesterday and i thought i'd check out this website to see what its all about. It was very inspiring hearing what you have overcome to get where you are today. I hope that you get the exam results you are hoping for and go on to achieve your dreams...i have every faith you will.

samantha crosse (376 days ago) Report Comment

I just came across it! Was having a search for the documentary they said was being filmed in freshers week when we had the coffee shop drinks reception. I'm sure your results will turn out alright. Mine went O I think! I hope! Home now. If I see you around in semester 2 I'll say hi!

Steve (385 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshHi Steve - i didn't know anyone from St Andrews was following this! Thanks for your comment - Exams just finished today, they went OK on the whole, although Maths could have gone better. Cya'round

Josh

Josh (388 days ago) Report Comment

Hey there! I am also in New Hall. You seem to be doing brilliantly! Hope your exams have been going well this week!

Steve (389 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshHi Lauren. Thanks for this- it is so nice when people say things like that.I think you hit the nail on the head-it is a matter of confidence and staying calm.Unfortunately as you may have gathered from the films confidence with socialisation and academia are not my strong points-although I do get extra time which I use to calm myself during the exam. I think a lot of the problem is also that I feel a lot of pressure to do well. I want to do well to become a clinical psychologist so I can help people, I guess I kinda feel that if I don't do well, i am letting the people I could help down. Having said that- you are right, I can't learn everything.Josh

Josh (392 days ago) Report Comment

Picture of JoshHi Lauren. Thanks for this- it is so nice when people say things like that.I think you hit the nail on the head-it is a matter of confidence and staying calm.Unfortunately as you may have gathered from the films confidence with socialisation and academia are not my strong points-although I do get extra time which I use to calm myself during the exam. I think a lot of the problem is also that I feel a lot of pressure to do well. I want to do well to become a clinical psychologist so I can help people, I guess I kinda feel that if I don't do well, i am letting the people I could help down. Having said that- you are right, I can't learn everything.Josh

Josh (392 days ago) Report Comment

Hi Josh! You are really clever and work so hard. You need to have confidence in yourself and in the preparation that you're doing for your exams. From experience, being too stressed does not help. Stay calm and don't over-revise. You can't learn everything!

Lauren G (396 days ago) Report Comment